Is age nothing but a number?

I'm 23 I’m not some old man detached from ‘today’s generation’ I also have an eleven year old brother and cousins each and every year from eleven to sixteen. I’m close to them I’ve watch them grow up my statement isn’t an assumption it is made out of experience and observation. I’ve always been mature for my age and I have been told as such. Though I think now it is hard to say that I was mature as with hindsight I look back and think I was young compared to what I know now.

Yes a lot of adults do present themselves as immature however life has allowed them to be. Whether that is financial security life experience etc. But many adults get to a point where they realise that they don’t need to worry about maturity and social judgements (it’s not important to act ‘cool’) and would rather re-live the irresponsibility of there youth and seek fun. It doesn’t make them immature in my eyes they are simply experiencing there mid life crisis.

Now lets say I'm not ready to settle down and I meet a person who is 36 she wants kids as soon as possible, she also wants a husband, the house and the dream. We get along like and it appears like we could be together. Now she has had her early 20's she's travelled, studied and explored herself. She has comfortably come to this point in her life.

Is it fair that I have to miss that in my life to suit her needs? Can I give her what she wants and equally be happy that I'm living my life the way I want?

What I am saying is that it totally has to do with the life you live. Of course age determines the way you live your life. Why would you want to be an adult too early in life? Why would a person want to remain childish an immature well into their twenties? Society sets up a structure for us to live our lives so that we encounter obstacles in life at certain ages so that we have enough experience to handle that stage of our life. Age should also determine your choices of love. Love is a powerful thing I’d like to think I’ve been in love but each and every time I have a better relationship I seem to feel more for that person. I don’t want to fall in love until I feel ready as I still don’t know what it is. I know you don’t choose but I’d rather be older with a wiser head on my shoulders to handle it than be young and impulsive and lose myself within the magnitude of the feelings.
 
On just this issue of age... I believe you are as old as you feel. I know teenagers who've had to grow up faster hen they normally would. Girls who've unexpectantly become pregnant have to grow up faster whether they want to or not.... I have a friend who's mom who has cancer and cannot do much for herself so it is left up to her daughter to look after her 3 younger siblings, keep the house in order, and take care of her mother. Some of those things she shouldn't have to do until she's married and had kids, but yet she one of the most mature people I know and it's amazing how she keeps it under control with such grace and maturity at only the age of 16.

Now I think that adults shouldn't date minors, because I think it's a disaster waiting to happen. But two consenting adults that love and care for each other, then it really none of our business.
 
I think you raised the issue when is someone old enough and when are they an adult and who should decide. A teen can feel an adult but as they get older and look back realise that they weren't.

Adults an minors (I take it you mean pre16) that is just wrong and the adult is just taking advantage. Imo
 
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